What NOT and What TO DO if you live with someone who has Selective Competence

DON'T try to control another person's thoughts or beliefs. That is their property and their right to feel and think what they want. DON'T allow that person to control your beliefs and thoughts. They are yours. DON'T use threats, ultimatums, violence or any form of dysfunctional control strategies to try to control that person. DON'T ignore threats to your safety and any other family members. DON'T make yourself responsible of fixing the problem of what another person believes about themselves. That job is not yours. DON'T put your own well being in the hands of a person who is not reliable, or make your own happiness dependent on a mentally ill person "getting better". DO protect yourself and any children. Remove yourself from any threatening or dangerous environment. DO establish your right to your own beliefs. Say, "I will respect your beliefs about this and you must respect mine". DO separate the person from the problem. Say, "I don't agree with you, but I still care about you". DO take care of yourself in such a way that you will be alright no matter if this person gets better or not. OUT OF THE FOG